Money. Hard work. Privilege. Inheritance. Entitlement. Motivation. Success. All of these words can bring up a host of thoughts and feelings. Some of them tend to have positive connotations, yet many of them are super-charged with negativity. Shows such as “Succession” have brought fresh attention to the realm of the uber wealthy and the dramatic flavor of issues such as family feuds, excess, sibling rivalry, manipulation, and mental health issues including addiction. But, as many of Shakespeare’s works describe, family dynamics can get particularly mucky when wealth and privilege are part of the picture.
Join Dr. Carla and expert Jessica McGawley as we unravel some of the threads of the important and challenging issues that often affect us regardless of our socioeconomic status. Topics discussed include family relationships, inheritance, money, wealth, empowerment, Gen Z, Millennials, entitlement, privilege, conflict, suicide, savings, spending, giving, donating, gratitude, appreciation, kindness, boundaries, strength, extinction burst, neurolinguistics, shame, children, intergenerational patterns, family dynamics, and love.
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Money, Privilege, and Parenting: How to Raise Grounded, Loving Children with Expert Jessica McGawley
Privilege and Parenting: Top Tips for Raising Well-Rounded, Appreciative Children
Money, hard work, privilege, inheritance, entitlement, motivation, and success, all of these words can bring up a host of thoughts and feelings. Some of them tend to have positive connotations, yet many of them are supercharged with negativity. Shows such as Succession have brought attention to the realm of the uber wealthy and the dramatic flavor of issues such as family feuds, excess, sibling rivalry, manipulation, and mental health issues, including addiction. As many of Shakespeare’s works describe, family dynamics can get particularly mucky when wealth and privilege are part of the picture. This expert will help us unravel some of the threads of these important issues.
In this episode, we will focus on this reader’s real-life question. “I hate to say this, but I’m fed up with my children’s entitled attitudes. Both of them are partying their way through college. As background, my husband and I are hardworking and very successful financially. Although we tried to raise our children properly, they are self-absorbed and don’t seem to have any drive to fulfill their own potential. They’re impossible to talk to. Maybe it’s our fault, and we cater to them too much. What can we do now to fix this? With that question as the focus of this episode, this is the show. Please note that this episode may contain sensitive information. Reader discretion is advised.
I’m joined by an amazing guest, Jessica McGawley, who will be sharing her expertise as a psychological consultant. Jessica is the Founder and Director of Dallington Associates, a family consultancy. Jessica is focused on mentoring the rising generation. Welcome to the show, Jessica. It’s a pleasure and a privilege to have you with us.
Thank you so much for having me. I’m happy to be here.
The Activist Mindset: Learning, Action, and Advocacy
Before we launch into the meat of this episode, could you tell our readers a little bit about what makes you, you?
First and foremost, the thing that makes me, me is that I am, in many respects, an activist. I’m an activist in the way I learn. For anybody who’s done one of those learning assessments, I always fall into that category. I’m an activist in terms of taking action. I know that you believe strongly in applying theory in real life, and that therapy is made real by putting it into practice. I’m a big believer in that. I’m also an activist in advocacy for those who don’t necessarily feel that they have it for themselves. When people hear that, they assume it’s for certain groups in the world and for certain charities and organizations. The group that we’re about to spend a lot of this episode talking about also requires that.
Redefining Wealth, Privilege, and Family Dynamics
Thank you for that background. When we look at you as an activist and the changes you are making in the rising generation, because it’s so important, many people write off Millennials and especially Gen Z as the entitled generation. They don’t want to work hard. They don’t want to work the way their parents did. It creates this tenseness in the family system and in society as a whole.
I appreciate that you’re with us, and I am matching you with this question, which would take a very special expert to help me dive into those dynamics. These dynamics aren’t new. For as long as wealth has been around and as long as people began to accumulate more than their neighbors, there has been an edge to privilege. Some people raise children with animosity toward privilege even within their own family system. It’s important to look even neuro-linguistically at words like privilege and what they bring up for us, because privilege doesn’t necessarily mean wealth.
I’m sorry to jump in there. This is the activist to me. I feel so strongly about it. I also feel strongly that anyone on the planet can be and feel wealthy if they are willing to define and do the work on what wealth means to them. Long gone are the days when wealth means financial wealth. If we think of wealth as being whole and abundant, then that can mean lots of different things to different people. Therefore, everybody should have access to feel that they can be wealthy.
I am with you 100% that wealth is truly how we define it. I know some people who are extremely wealthy, and they are some of the unhappiest people. I wouldn’t want their kind of wealth if it came with that type of depression, angst, manipulative tendencies, all of that. You’re right. We can have financial success and feel strong, good, and whole. We can also have loads of financial success and have an absence of internal wealth. In my realm, what matters most is the internal wealth.
All of these big characters in films and shows like Succession, Billions, and all of that, the main character is that. They are financially very well off, but they have those emotional issues that rule them. We have to have a lot of empathy and understanding for first-generation wealth creators because typically, first-generation highly successful wealth creators have not come from much financially.
They typically come from a working-class background where there might have been one parent. They went to a state school, not a private school. They would most likely never have gone to university, maybe not until much later in life. They would’ve had labor or hands-on jobs from a young age and worked incredibly hard.
Long gone are the days when wealth only means financial wealth. If we think of wealth as being whole and abundant, then it can mean different things to different people. Share on XWhen they’ve made their wealth, they bring up their children in a very different culture. I’m going to use that word because it is a different culture. There’s this disparity between the version that they grew up in and the one they’re bringing up their children in. They’ve been in this race for so long that at no point have they paused to look at why they were so desperate to get out of that initial culture.
Thank you for that background. I’m thinking of my own parents and anyone who grew up in the Depression era, anyone who grew up working hard to create a different life for themselves and their kids. This happens in today’s world. It’s not just the Depression era. Many people face this. When we are in survival mode, that is often what’s happening when we are trying to get an education, get our first home, get a business up and running and make it successful, or whatever it might be.
I’m not getting into any shame or blame of anyone because I find no use in shame or blame. I find a great deal of use in understanding what went well in somebody’s parenting or life journey, what didn’t go well in their parenting or life journey, what can we do to amplify what was done if there’s anything there, and there’s usually something, and what we can do to let go of and not repeat that which was harmful or not done well.
I love that you say that. It’s so true. There’s so much focus on the negative, but we should all do that. That’s a practice I’m going to take from this, for sure, to always do that. You are right. Any highly successful parent that I’ve worked with, if I asked them, “Would you be where you are today without your struggles?” They’d be like, “Absolutely not.” They would count all of those mistakes, failures, hard knocks, challenges, and maybe even disadvantages is probably a better way of putting it, as some of the key drivers that have made them so successful. It is to be able to look back at that with some gratitude as well and not just as pain and challenge.
I don’t know about you, but I know I’m not perfect, and I’ve never met anybody who’s perfect. When we focus as adults, as parents, or as children on, “We should have done it perfectly. I should have been a perfect parent,” or, “My child should be perfect,” the truth is, I have never found anyone who’s perfect. I love looking at it again to amplify it. Rather than haggling over it or getting angry over it, slow it down and look at what we can shift in the here and now mindfully one baby step at a time so that we can create that future that is maybe a lot healthier or maybe a little bit healthier than it was yesterday, five years ago, or our parents’ generation, whatever that was.
Navigating Entitlement and Purpose in Young Adults
When we look at the reader’s question, this very complicated question about these college-aged children, a boy and a girl, who sounds like they’re a bit aimless and are still in school, so they haven’t been kicked out it seems, the mother is the one who reaches out and is looking for what can be done differently.
It is interesting that she threw in this acknowledgement that maybe she contributed or they contributed to where the children are, that sense of entitlement or privilege. Help us unravel this because whether somebody has $100 in the bank or a billion times that these are questions that can apply to all of us.
The first thing I want to say is they’re college students. They’re college-aged, so forget any success. Wealth aside, they’re college-aged. This sounds fairly normal. I wouldn’t worry too much because you still have some years for them. They’re still in the boundary testing. They’re still working on their identity. I wouldn’t worry about that too much. The only issue is that feeling of that big word, the entitlement word.
For your reader who put that question in, first of all, I want to normalize your position. I can’t tell you how many parents I meet and one of the first things they say to me is, “We have this issue of entitlement with one or more of our children.” It’s a tricky one. I don’t know their generation of wealth, but if they’re first gen and they’ve worked very hard to create that different life, the chances are they have gifted or provided a more comfortable and more resourceful life for their children than they had. Therefore, they are, understandably to them, expecting some gratitude for that.
The reality is their children don’t know that this isn’t their normal. They don’t know that this is better or special than what their parents grew up with. To their children, this is their reality. It’s not extra. Therefore, there is that typical entitlement. We can add some perspective here. At every level across the board, this will take place. I understand as a parent if you’re putting your child through college, those are big fees and all of the costs that go associated with it. When they come home for the holidays, all you want is a little gratitude.
The tough thing to hear is that typically, children don’t entitle themselves. I say that with empathy because I’m a mom. I get this wrong. I entitle my children now and again and spoil them and gift them with things that they don’t need. That is on me. Having that real conversation with your kids all the way along about where the money is coming from, not to guilt trip them and not to make them feel bad for it, but so that they see these things aren’t coming out of nowhere.
We’ve got small children. We make sure that they understand the value of money by having a savings, spending, and gifting box. They have multiple ways of looking at how they can look after their money. It’s not just for them. It’s also for others. We make sure that they don’t skip over the adverts of those distressing charity adverts at Christmas. As the rest of us do, we make sure that they look at that and see that. Having that connection to others is a big part of this entitlement way of solving that.
Thank you. I have a couple of questions. When you have the savings box, the spending box, and the gifting box, is the gifting box exclusively for getting other people gifts or donating?
For us, gifting is for others. It’s for charity. It’s not for your friends’ birthday party. That’s our decision. Our decision is that we buy our children’s friends’ birthday presents.
I want to say how beautiful that is that you have a box specifically for donations. For me, that is one of the privileges of working hard to get some money. Whether it’s a dollar to spare or far more than that to spare, make it a practice to give. We have something in the US. You might have it there, the Salvation Army. We volunteer most years to ring the bell.
When there’s a parent who comes and gives their child a little bit of money to put it in the bucket, we make such a big deal about it to reinforce how important that is. Not only is the parent having their child do that. Whether it’s a nickel or a dollar, it doesn’t matter. It’s the fact that the parent is teaching the child, “Let’s give. Let’s share some of this that we’ve worked hard to get.” I love that piece. It’s so important. Thank you for answering that question.
Understanding Financial Stress and Generational Perspectives
Another question I have for you is when you are talking about the parents, and I appreciate that you emphasized this, the parents may have been working hard, especially the first generation. It can be second generation if the parents weren’t giving a lot and they had to make their own money. It’s in that generation, whichever generation it is, where the parent was working and the child is getting. It’s happening a lot in this world and in many generations before.
I love how you illuminated that the child doesn’t know any different. The child doesn’t know that that parent may have grown up with very little, if any, spending money, that they may be feeling in a constant state of stress and survival mode to make the house payment. It may look very abundant. There might be money in Mom and Dad’s wallets, but they may not realize that the parents are in survival mode even if a lot of money is accruing. That survival mode doesn’t always turn off even when there is a load of money in the bank.
Some of the wealthiest families I’ve ever worked with had the most stress about money I’ve ever known, truly. Even when you try to rationalize it with them, they go, “I know, but I’ve never been so stressed. I wish we were back in our studio eating a cup of soup.” You are right.
People often don’t talk about it. It is a form of PTSD, sometimes complex PTSD, where that person’s nervous system is hardwired to fear poverty because of the stresses that they knew. That is the part where maybe having that studio apartment and the cup of soup was quite a bit simpler than managing all of the financial assets. Fearing that they’re going to be taken from you is often what’s underneath that. I appreciate your amplification of that piece.
The Power of Gratitude in Family Relationships
There is one last piece, the gratitude. I love that you brought up that simple truth, which is many times, parents are simply wanting a child to say, “Thank you,” or, “I see how hard you work,” or, “I appreciate you sending me to this topnotch school or this low-level school because it’s all you can afford.” It’s the appreciation in all of our relationships, but particularly our intimate ones. I often say to people when they’re struggling with gratitude, which is so basic to me, “Why is it easy for you to thank a server who brings you a cup of coffee but so difficult for you to thank your parent, to thank your child, or to thank your partner? Why? What’s happening inside?”
I’m sure you are much better at answering that about what’s happening inside. The point you make about the server is that it is habitually ingrained in us that that is what you do. We don’t do it at home in the same way. It is not common practice. When I put my children to bed, we do the top three things that we’re grateful for. We all have to do it. It will often be the same thing. I’ll occasionally get a mention in there, and I appreciate that. I’m making it part of our daily activity.
Readers, I appreciate that Jessica is echoing a practice that’s near and dear to me. I wake up in the morning and begin with my gratitude. I thank everything from nature to all of the blessings that are around me. Why? I also bless the people in my life who are important parts of my life. That instills in us not only gratitude and appreciation, but that internal sense of wealth.
If you asked any highly successful parent if they would be where they are today without their struggles, they would say, “Absolutely not.” They would count all their mistakes and challenges. Share on XI don’t care nearly as much about what’s in a bank account as I do about what’s inside, my spirit, my psyche. People who are struggling will say, “I can’t afford therapy,” or, “I don’t want to do therapy.” I say, “Which would you rather have if I gave you only one choice? Physical health or mental health? Which would you choose?” People will stop and say, “I don’t know. Do I have to choose one?” I say, “In this scenario, yes. You must choose one.” I know for me, if I had the most amazing physical body but didn’t have mental health, it’s not going to do me any good. If I have good mental health and my body begins failing for some reason, then my mental health will see me through.
I completely agree. For your readers, and I’m sure there are many because they’re following you, if you practice daily gratitude, you feel so wealthy. You feel so abundant. You feel like you have so much because you’re reminding yourself of how much you do have. You go into the world where everything does seem a little bit brighter.
Shifting Parenting Approaches for Lasting Impact
Let’s take it back to the question of the day with this parent. I appreciate that you highlighted with no blame or shame. You’re very clear, “Parents, likely, you’ve done some things consciously or unconsciously, but largely unconsciously, that contributed to your child feeling entitled.” We’re talking about college-aged kids here. As you notice, there’s still room to make a difference. We can make a difference in our lives at any age, but they’re a bit more on the outside of it. What shifts could these parents do as well as any other parent who’s reading, but also people who have kiddos at the age of your kiddos or maybe ones in middle school? What would you say to that fairly complex question?
First of all, to the actual question that the reader posted in, I would say, to your point, they’re college-aged, but we’ve still got time here. More importantly, when they graduate, which may be coming up soon, you want to get on with this soon because otherwise, they will return home after graduation expecting potentially more from you at a time when they need to be launching out into life, if possible.
Therefore, I would say you’ve got to set your expectations. You can’t expect them to do it with a smile. Understand the age group you’re dealing with. I’m not sure about the US, but certainly in the UK, the age from adolescents was around 19 or 20. 25 is that we still consider adolescents to be taking place. The likelihood is that your college students are still in that. We can’t expect them to not take this without a bit of a hump. That’s okay.
I love this saying. This is from Jo Frost, who’s a famous super nanny in the UK. She has this phrase which is, “Say what you mean. Mean what you say. Don’t be mean.” It applies to every age. It’s a brilliant saying. Say what you mean. In this case, at this age, you’re saying it lightly. You’re saying calmly, “This is going to be your budget. You’re not going to go over it.
If you go over it, there will be no extra. There will be no surplus. You’ll have to find a job. You’ll have to find another way to pay for your lifestyle. I’m not saying that because I don’t love you and don’t like you. It’s nothing of the sort. I’m letting you know that I’m doing this because it will help you become more resilient and more independent in the future. Any questions?”
Packaged beautifully. Thank you.
Just because you can doesn’t mean you should. Take the time to let your child have the privilege of making a mistake. That is a privilege in young adult life. Share on XExpect a ton of kickbacks for that. I do the exact same to my son. If he’s acting up, pushing the boundaries, or testing me, I will say, “Darling, if you do that again, I am going to remove your toy,” or, “You’re not going to have any stories tonight.” He does it inevitably, so I say, “The consequences are now happening. I still love you and like you, but this is what’s going to happen.” I see it through. The husband stands by me. Tomorrow, he knows.
You said a few very critical pieces that I want to amplify and highlight. Thank you. First, readers, notice how Jessica said her husband stands by her, a united front in a partnership. If you’re a single parent, it is a bit harder because you have to be everything and be strong. If you’re partnered, get aligned with your partner behind the scenes. Talk. Come to conclusions about how you’re going to do this so that you two can stand strong. United caregivers are such an important part of a child’s upbringing at every age. I appreciate that you focused on that.
The other thing that I appreciate is that in the super nanny’s saying, “Say what you mean. Mean what you say. Don’t be mean,” that is all about consistency and kindness. You are laying out the ground rules, you are doing it kindly, and you are staying strong. For the third thing, you did more than implied it, but you showed it. You had the natural consequence. The child didn’t listen, so there was a natural consequence.
That’s where it gets so hard for many parents or many adults in all relationships. Especially if we grew up as peacemakers, if we’re afraid of conflict, we can get into, “I give in. I know I said it. I meant what I said, but I can’t stand true to it because my child, my partner, or somebody will be angry at me or there will be too much fuss.” That is the critical piece of the process. It is being able to stand firm when there is a tantrum by a child, an adolescent, or an adult.
Readers, this is called the extinction burst. If you’ve been giving in to a child or an adult over and over again, they expect you not to follow through. You might mean what you say and say what you mean, but if there aren’t natural consequences, they’re used to steamrolling you. As you set boundaries and give that natural consequence of, “I’m going to leave this conversation,” or, “I am taking away the toy,” or, “I’m not adding to your allowance,” or, “There is no allowance,” whatever it might be, that individual is used to ramping up. They might be screaming, yelling, raging, or whatever it is. Your work is to stand strong, never allow yourself to be abused, and not give in.
That might get a little worse for a while. It’s why it’s called an extinction burst because the behavior can go up. Eventually, when they learn that you mean what you said and will follow through, the behavior tends not to return again. It might come in small bursts, but keep standing in your truth. It will eventually create this lovely, new behavior and level of interaction that feels better to everyone. What do you think?
I hadn’t heard that phrasing before. I love that. You are right. For any parent reading, when you’re going, “I want to give in,” you are future-proofing your child by doing this. I hate the word brat. It’s a heavy word. You are limiting the amount of that that you’re going to see in the future if you cannot see through the consequence.
We are also not helping our younger generation by not giving them consequences because real life does have consequences. Some of the most well-adjusted, healthiest young adults I’ve ever worked with are the ones who, in their families, did have the reality of consequences. To come back to very affluent families, there are those resources. There are tutors. There are safety nets. Things can happen to fix a problem. I always say to parents, “Please, just because you can doesn’t mean you should. Take that time to let your child have the privilege of making a mistake.”
I believe it is a privilege in young adult life to make a mistake and fall over. Get yourself back up. That is your self-esteem you’re building. If the parent does it for you, it’s only theirs that they’re building. We have to back off. We have to make sure those consequences stick in place because otherwise, they’re going to learn it the hard way when it comes to a relationship, an employer, or the law. Remember, you’re future-proofing your child.
You put it together so beautifully. People often feel bad when they’re giving a child of whatever age or a partner a natural consequence. I believe that it is one of the greatest acts of love because love is action. It’s often easier, especially when we’re tired or drained, to give in. Standing our ground to help another person or hold someone accountable so that they can learn from that situation sometimes takes ten times the effort.
It’s so much easier to say, “Here’s $20. Have your way,” or, “Here’s £50. Go away,” or whatever it might be. It takes so much more work to say, “That was not appropriate. This is what the expectation is. This is what we need to do. Let’s watch and make sure the follow-through happens.” That takes an abundant amount of effort. I see all of these pieces as showing love and putting love in action.
I couldn’t agree more. As you can imagine, a lot of the families I’ve worked with over the years have an army of yes people around them. That industry is changing for the better, I must say, but I’ve so often seen that there has been an army of, “We don’t like to deliver bad news. Whatever you say. That goes ahead.” They’re surrounded by very powerful, wealthy people. Everyone wants to stick around. They don’t want to be the people who say no and deliver bad news. When I come steamrolling in with “No, that’s a hard line. We’re not doing that,” initially, I might get some raised eyebrows, but as a whole, the family receives it as love.
Empathy for Privileged Youth: A New Perspective
That shines through your humility, sincerity, genuineness, and passion for advocating for every generation, but particularly the younger generation. They have so much to offer. With some attention, TLC, and mindfulness, we can help them make a world that gives them extreme internal wealth. I could talk to you for hours. Are there any other pieces you would like to offer to our readers?
The one thing I always want to get across is that whether you yourself are an affluent parent or a rising gen young person or you know one, or if you don’t and they’re the people that we see in the press and the ones with the “nepo baby” titles that are streamed around, it’s important that this group is approached with empathy.
If you are a child who has been born into a very successful family, be that a business family, a multi-generational business family, a royal family, etc., we have to remember they didn’t choose that. In every other section of society, we have empathy for people who have been born into something that they found difficult. When money is involved, that empathy suddenly vanishes.
I’ve worked with so many families over the years where there are opportunities, privileges, and resources that go with that. We should never ignore that. At the same time, it’s unfair to put this burden of guilt on a young generation as they’re trying to work out who they are. Approach that group with empathy. The next time you hear somebody pull out the poor little rich kid card, question it.
Thank you. In my heart, I could feel that. I feel the old saying, “All that glitters is not gold.” You can have somebody’s life. We see it in the press now and again where somebody had a glittery life and they commit suicide or they are hospitalized for a mental health issue. All of these things take empathy. The more somebody’s in the press or the more notoriety or fame there is, it might look lovely and sparkle, but with that comes a lot of burden, especially for the younger generation or the kiddos who might not have been what they wanted.
Some people might be like, “Who wouldn’t wave a magic wand and want privilege?” There are probably a lot of people out there. We can see in cases where there’s extreme wealth and somebody committed suicide. It’s an example where privilege didn’t quite do it for them on a very real level. To not end on that very unhappy note, let’s amplify again the importance of showing empathy.
Curiosity is a wonderful way to connect with people. Say to somebody, “How are you doing?” If you’re talking to someone, say, “What are the favorite parts of your life?” We might find that it’s something very simple like somebody saying, “Nothing right now, but I’m looking back to the day when I lived in my studio apartment and ate noodle soup.” It’s always important not to assume. Jessica, thank you again. I know it’s late where you are because of the huge time difference, and you’re a mom. Thank you.
Thank you so much for having me.
Thank you. Where can our readers find you?
I said www and one of my young mentees said, “You don’t need to say that anymore.” He’s quite right. Dallington.co is the website, or JessicaMcGawley.com.
Jessica, thank you for sharing your time and incredible expertise with us. I’m so appreciative. To our readers, thank you as always for sharing your time and energy with us.
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About Jessica McGawley
The Founder and Director of Dallington Associates Family Consultancy, Jessica is focused on Mentoring the Rising Generation. Jessica is a London-based psychological consultant, mediator, activist, and founder of Dallington, a pioneering mentorship practice for the rising generation. With over 15 years of experience, she has worked with more than 150 families, helping them navigate the unique challenges of raising children in the context of wealth and success. As Jessica notes, “The journey into adulthood is a uniquely challenging chapter, and I’ve seen firsthand that the common assumption—that coming from an affluent family makes this transition easier—isn’t always true. While wealth can unlock incredible opportunities, it also introduces distinct challenges that are often misunderstood, overlooked, and met with limited empathy or support. My work is dedicated to addressing these challenges and helping families thrive.”