We often have secret dreams that we want to pursue but are fearful of taking the next step. All too often, we find ourselves on a path in life that others chose for us–or that we accepted by default. In our desire to gain approval, acceptance, and love, we sometimes do what is “right” for others but not for ourselves. In this process, we get stuck and lose our own way. Yet the mere idea of creating change can bring up such intense anxiety and stress that we never break free. Dr. Carla is joined by Arash Farzaneh, professor, linguist, and inner peace expert to help you discover how to face your fears, get unstuck, and create the life of your dreams.
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In a perfect world, we might know our life path in the beginning and follow it perfectly, but then would be robbed of the learning and joy that come with the unexpected twists and turns of life. Although life’s challenges surely can bring us to our knees, they can also help us learn extraordinarily valuable lessons.
In this episode, we’ll focus on this reader’s real-life question, “I’m 35 and have so much to be grateful for that I’m embarrassed to even complain. I have a great partner, house, kid, and a great job, but I feel lost and stuck. I followed the trajectory that was expected and set out for me, but I’m empty and getting increasingly sad and depressed. Can you give me an idea of what direction I should take?” With that question, we’ll launch into the episode.
In this episode, I’m joined by a very special guest, Arash Farzaneh, who will be sharing his expertise as a professor, linguist, and expert on finding inner peace, flexibility, and happiness. Welcome to the show, Arash. How are you?
I’m doing very well. Thank you for asking, and thank you for inviting me to your show.
It’s such a joy to have you. Before we launch into the reader’s question, the individual who feels stuck even after doing all the right things, crossing the Ts, dotting the Is, and waking up feeling very stuck and unhappy but guilty for feeling stuck and unhappy, let our audience know a little bit about what makes you you.Feeling stuck in life? Ready to face your fears and create change! Join Dr. Carla and Arash Farzaneh for an uplifting journey that will help you move through your fears and anxiety to get unstuck. Click To Tweet
I generally enjoy life and I’m quite optimistic about things, but I’m also very fascinated with mysteries and finding out information. My philosophy is something I’ve always been fascinated with and psychology as well and trying to understand things. How are things working? How is the universe working? How are we responding to things? How do we often complicate things for ourselves in many cases? To simplify and find moderation, that describes my general outlook on things.
I like very much how we tend to overcomplicate things, and that creates quite a challenge on top of the other challenges. In this very imperfect journey of life, you and I have a bit of knowledge of each other behind the scenes. I do know that aside from all of your many talents, you speak five languages. Do I remember that right? You teach up in Canada. You are a wonderful professor, a wonderful father and husband, and all of these wonderful things.
I also know that your life has not been easy. It has not been linear. You have had to find your own path. That’s why I thought you’d be the perfect expert for this particular question, which is one that even though it’s a specific question, it is a question many people have, which is, “I did all the right things. I followed the course that was expected. I’ve done everything as perfectly as possible. Why am I feeling so empty and stuck?” Tell us a little bit about your trajectory that makes it something that you’ve learned how to navigate the unbeaten path.
One of the things that is the most important thing is to connect with yourself and find out who you are and what you want to do. I found, in my case, often, that the desires I had were not my own. They were other people’s desires. I wanted to impress my parents. It was their desire that I would do this or do that and so on. Once you realize that what you want is often different from what others want and you know the difference between the two things, then you can go the path that resonates with you.
For me, that was the case when I said, “This is what I want to do. This is my path regardless of what others expect of me.” That is very liberating in a sense where you feel also, “This is how I would respond to the situation. It is not how my parents would, not what my friend would do, or not my teacher would do, but this is my own way.” Once we tap into that, it gets stronger. That voice intuition comes out more and then we feel guided throughout.
You make it sound so easy. There is so much in what you said. One of the first pieces I want to highlight is why you said something to the effect of, “I had these desires, but they were not my own.” How is that possible that we can have desires that aren’t our own? After all, they are desires. “My desires are not my own.” Tell us a little bit more about that.
It is taking on others when we do something that’s not to satisfy ourselves but to satisfy others. We do it for others. We sit also in relationships. We do want to please others, but we also need to make sure we have boundaries that we’re also ourselves, and that we’re taking care of ourselves as well. For me, everything comes down to moderation. If we do it in moderation, it is the correct path of the give and take that’s necessary. We are also in a relationship with ourselves. It is to make sure that we do what we want to do but don’t self-indulge too much. It is that kind of balance. That’s important.
Often, my own experience was I would be geared toward the other person. I am trying to please them. I am trying to get their acceptance. I would go overboard and I would lose those boundaries, and I would not be happy. That balance and harmony are so important, but it is not easy. The solution is very simple, but it takes a lot of effort.
I agree with everything you said. The solution is simple. Putting it into practice is extremely difficult. For example, this person who wrote and has everything on the outside that looks perfect, or it’s my take from the message that it all looks perfect, this person is saying, “It’s not me. I’ve done all of these things.” It sounds like the person is aware that they’re going to rock the boat if they get unstuck.
What do you do with that fear when you get unstuck and start pursuing life? This person might not even know what they do want to do. First off, how would you recommend that he find what he or she wants to do? Secondarily, what do you do with the possible earthquakes that are happening once you follow your own course?
What I do with myself is brutal honesty. It sounds harsh, but it’s not. It is being completely honest with yourself. We’re often not honest with others because often, we have to wear a mask. We have to say nice things. We can’t be completely honest with them and so on unless they are very close people. That’s different. It is being honest with yourself, like, “What is it I want? What is it I would like to do?” Regardless of everything, “How am I? What kind of person am I?” It is being honest with that, with your flaws, and with your strengths and trying to see it from also a bit of an objective point of view.
I find often we’re so critical of ourselves that we would never treat our friends that way. The things or the judgments we have of ourselves are so harsh, but we would never use that language or those words with somebody else. Why do we do it to ourselves? There’s that kind of honesty, but also kindness with ourselves of not judging ourselves and of not putting ourselves down. This comes from somebody who would constantly do it to himself. I learned my lessons there when I can relax, take it a bit easier, and look at it. Let’s look at the facts in a somewhat objective way but also consider feelings as well. Not one or the other, but both combined together. That is wisdom in mind.
Let’s encapsulate that in a sentence. According to Arash, wisdom is?
The balance between your thoughts and feelings. It’s not one or the other only but the combination of both in harmony.
That’s beautiful. Launching a little bit back toward the question of the episode, for that person, perhaps their thoughts have always been, “I should do the right thing. I should get the right job, marry the right person, have a child, and have the house.” All of those are thoughts of what I should be doing. We know the danger of should. It is a very dangerous word for us to get into that rut of shoulds. Maybe forgetting the feelings inside of not following the passion or even knowing what one’s passion is.
Let’s imagine that somebody wakes up one day, whether they’re 20, 30, 40, 50, 60, 70, or 80 and they say, “I’ve been living somebody else’s life. I’ve been trying to please other people.” I know you said to dive inside and be brutally honest with yourself with kindness, kind brutality, so to speak. I can hear people saying, “What are you talking about? Dive inside? It’s so important to do the right thing. I don’t want to upset the apple cart.”
How would you recommend it? I know you’ve been here. I’ve been here too. That’s the danger and the fun of it. It is knowing that we’ve been there and we’ve been through this. That’s part of why we can support other people in the process because we know how dark it can be. How would you recommend to someone who is facing this issue? Forget age or any of that. How do they dive inside to find that little voice of passion that was probably squished out by the time they were 3 or 4?
Our feelings become important there. It is any kind of feeling. It can be feelings of anxiety or feelings of fear. I opened up to those feelings. I love Joy from Fear, the book where we talk about the feelings that are here, like anxiety, a type of feeling, that can be a friend or can be a guide. It’s the same way as a signal. When we have pain, it’s telling us to do something about it or else. That’s the same with our anxious feelings.
I went through anxiety and I found it rewarding when I started facing it instead of shutting it or running away from it. It is first feeling it so it doesn’t get stuck. We don’t want to put it under the carpet or anything. We don’t want to hide it. We don’t want to put something on top of it. It is facing those feelings. The next question is, “Why do I feel this way?” Often, even though we say feelings are irrational, there is some sort of reason, something that happens, or something that somebody said 30 years ago that still resonates with us. It is tapping into that.
Once you go through those feelings and liberate yourself from that minor trauma perhaps, then you find out, “I’m connecting with myself more. The blockage is taken away, and it flows freely.” That is hugely important. A lot of us are so afraid of fear. We’re afraid of anxiety that we do anything not to feel it. Do the opposite. Go forward. It’s not as bad as we think. It feels bad and horrible, but it’s important to face it.
I agree with you. Thank you for mentioning Joy from Fear because that is the foundation of that book. It’s like, “We have two types of anxiety.” There is the anxiety that serves us and that tells us, “Don’t pet the bear. The bear might bite you, and then the anxiety that’s trying to keep you stuck in life and that’s trying to keep you.” The minute you start feeling the anxiety, you retract.
When we’re looking at this evolution of the self, it is someone who finds themselves stuck in life. They start moving out and start feeling the anxiety of, “What if this happens? What if that happens? What if my partner leaves me? What if I make less money? What if I follow my passion and I fall flat on my face?” It is all of those what-ifs that start popping up that get us back into staying between the lines that someone or something set out for us before. It’s like, “Don’t color outside these lines.” When you get outside those lines, it is going to make you feel anxious, so we go back in and live the right life. The right life sometimes is right for us, and sometimes, it’s death from the inside out.
It’s that comfort zone where we feel safe but we never step out. It’s like, “This is my place and I will not go outside of it.” We’re missing out on life. We’re missing out on exploring things and learning things. We’re like a zombie. We’re in a state where you get by. Life is so much more. It should be happiness. We should enjoy every moment of it, the good and the bad. I’m not saying that there is no bad.
Once you have the correct attitude or the correct feeling when you connect with yourself, even if something horrible happens, you see it as something, “I accept it and I will deal with it. I got this.” That feeling, I didn’t have before. Even bad things do happen and I’m going through a bad situation as well, I’m feeling like, “I got this. There is a solution and I can handle it.” That kind of faith and following your intuition with that is so important. When you feel stuck, you realize, “I’m not stuck. There is a way out. I have to find it. I have to find a way out and follow that path.” There is always a way out of anything.
You said so much there. First off, I’m sorry you’re going through a bad spell. I’m here for you. Second, if I didn’t mishear you, you said you’re supposed to enjoy the pain, the stuckness, and the downsides of life. Explain a little more, please. How do we enjoy that discomfort, that pain, that sometimes excruciating grief or anger? Readers, do you read what Arash is saying? He’s asking us to enjoy this?
The pain is real and nobody wants it. Nobody is looking for it, but when it comes, it’s like you’re facing a grueling match, for example where you say, “I can get through this. I can get through this situation,” then you see it as an opportunity for learning. The best learning for myself has come through suffering. When there was suffering, I learned so much from it. We don’t seek it. We don’t want it, but when it comes, that’s an opportunity there, so we should seize it.The pain is real, and nobody wants it. Nobody is looking for it. But when you have that faith and say, “I got this. I can get through this,” then you see it as an opportunity for learning. Click To Tweet
In some ways, we can turn it into something else that becomes joyful. We saw it with the pandemic, which is a horrible experience. I would not want to go through it again, but it opened up different pathways. It helped us in many ways. There’s another side to everything. What Shakespeare says is, “There is no good and bad. Our thinking makes it so.” I agree with that. When something bad happens, we shouldn’t focus so much on the negative but see the bright side or the silver lining of it that there is something good coming out of it.
The bad does exist. I’m not saying we should all be positive and everything is rosy colored, fine, and everything. Once you accept the whole thing, like the yin-yang and the Dao, then you realize things are more interconnected than we thought. From suffering, we find compassion. We find ways of connecting with others. We find support that we didn’t know existed until we went through that suffering spell. It’s putting things into perspective. That becomes very important, too.
I was laughing a bit at my question because I agree with you. I also believe that sometimes, we can’t enjoy the suffering while it’s happening. It’s more afterward. After suffering, if we do not enjoy it, we can look and appreciate how we used that difficult challenge, that grief, or that really big turning point in life that was so painful. We can look back, appreciate it, and say, “That helped me learn. That helped me grow. That brought this person into my life,” or maybe, “That sent that person out of my life that wasn’t a good force in life.”
It is all of that natural part that we often spend so much energy fighting it. It’s going to happen. That loss is going to happen. That death of someone or maybe the death of a part of one’s life or career is going to happen. If we fight against it, it makes us all the more scratched up and banged up rather than leaning into it. Have faith that there is something on the other side. When you are following your passion, when you’re following your joy, or when you’re following the next best step, we do come out the other side, don’t we?
It is acceptance and humility. We can’t control everything. There are many things we cannot and we should be okay with that. The things that we can control, that is our reaction to things. We do have control over that. We should tap into it by making it a positive reaction at all times. Having a positive outlook on what’s happening and never losing sight of that is hugely important.We can't control everything, and there are many things we cannot control, and we should be okay with that. The thing that we can control is our reaction to things. Click To Tweet
I agree with you. That’s something to aspire to that we can’t control necessarily everything that comes our way, but we certainly can control our responses to what comes our way. Maybe not 100% of the time. Maybe sometimes, we are not our best selves because we’re hungry, angry, lonely, tired, or stressed. It could be one of those things or something else. We can then, after that, correct that hiccup.
One of the toughest things is also the difference between letting go and holding on. It’s intuition that would tell us which one is the correct path. Whereas often, we try to hold onto something that is not ours. That could be a job. We want it, but it’s not working out. It could be a relationship that is not in the best interest of ourselves and we keep holding onto it.
In those moments, you need to be honest and listen to your intuition and say, “Letting go would be so much easier and so much calmer.” It is letting it slide. You are more relaxed when you let go. See what happens. Sometimes, when you let go, the other person comes toward you. That’s happened, too, in the past. Sometimes, it’s important to hold onto things where you say, “This is worth fighting for. I want to hold onto my principles, to my relationship, or to this.” That difference between the two gets a bit tricky, that’s where intuition comes into place where you know this is the right path to take. There is that voice that tells you.
I’m with you. How does one know? How does one cultivate that sense of differentiating between the busy mind that’s saying,” Do this,” and that true gut instinct, which is not a reactive gut instinct but that true inner knowing, that, “This is the next best step.” They can easily be confused, especially in difficult situations.
Mindfulness works there. I read an article about the benefits of daydreaming where psychologists looked at it and said, “You tap into your creativity when you’re daydreaming in a natural way or a spontaneous way.” With a lot of solutions, we try hard. We’re holding on. We’re looking for something. We’re so tense. When you look at scientists, when they came up with solutions or they came up with inventions, it happened in the shower. It happened during a walk. That is one way of connecting with yourself. It is taking a walk and not thinking about it because the solution will come to you. If you’re too focused on it, then you’re blocking yourself. You’re getting stuck in that busy mind state where you don’t see things clearly.
Suddenly, out of nowhere, there’s an answer. There’s a sign. You find something and see something. It says something and you go, “This is resonating with what I’m looking for. There’s the answer.” We know it when it happens. Dreams are a wonderful way of finding certain answers that we’re looking for. What should I do? Suddenly, this dream appears out of nowhere and tells you what to do. You’ll feel it. When the feeling connects with it, it’s the correct thing to do.
I love that. I love the piece about daydreaming. When I was in my doctoral program, we would use active imagination a lot as a tool. It is very Jungian-oriented. You’re going to be in a safe space and relaxed, but that’s a matter of dropping into yourself. It is letting go and imagining yourself on the journey. Whatever appears to you will help you find the right answer that’s waiting inside you all along when you get your thoughts, that busy hamster wheel mind, when you get it to turn off for 5 or 10 minutes if possible. Those are fabulous tools. Go for a walk, daydream, or have an active imagination.
Going back to this big question, which is a version of one that I hear so often in my work, how do I find my own path? We talked about that piece, but then part 2, which I know is related to part 1, what do we do with the people in our lives who are going to be very dismayed that we’ve dropped the ball? We’re an architect over here. We’re leaving this fabulous, well-paid, and steady job that gives us no joy and we want to become a sidewalk artist or a baker. What do we do with the loved ones in our lives or the people who have a vested interest in us staying the course?
There’s not much we can do because we can’t control them. That becomes important. When we’re so concerned about what others think of us, we have no way of controlling that. When my actions come from the heart and I’m doing the right thing, and I’m being kind, if it’s not perceived as that, that is okay. I love the Serenity Prayer for that. It’s the difference between knowing what you can control and what you cannot control and what others think we can control.
Often, I found, I was on the negative side where I assumed the worst. I assumed people did not appreciate me or like me and so on where I was wrong. As an instructor, I used to be more worried back then than now when I’d say, “Student evaluations are going to be horrible. They hated the class. They thought it was boring. They thought it was this.” In the end, it always turned out fine.
Also, when I felt elated, I was like, “This was a great class and I feel it. I know they felt the same way.” Sometimes, I feel, “This was not ideal,” but then I go, “Nobody’s perfect.” I went to this grocery store. I saw naturally imperfect mushrooms. I love that. I thought I wanted to mention this in this show because these mushrooms are not perfectly formed but are as delicious. Those imperfections often add to that unique quality to it because that mushroom is unique. It’s not like any other mushroom because it’s malformed, but it’s still good.
We focus too much on being a perfect self or the best version of ourselves. There is the version that is you. For me, that’s perfect. There are many flaws there that we can work on. We need to work on them. It doesn’t mean that we don’t do anything. If you look at it together, we’re already pretty perfect. We’re pretty good. It’s fine-tuning that needs to get in the way to make ourselves feel happier about ourselves perhaps, to be kinder to others, and to have more empathy towards others. That is important. There is perfection around us. The world, if you take a walk with an open mind where you don’t think too much, it is perfect. It’s magic. Our body is perfect with the way it works, how it synchronizes, and doing all this stuff without conscious intent. It does its own. It’s perfect.
There is that balance of seeing things in the world that we have as both perfect and imperfect because we are naturally human and we do imperfect things. I believe in constantly trying to evolve not toward perfection but toward the best self.
That’s connecting that. Once you do, then you’re set for life.
Set for life might be a journey. It is that journey of getting into the groove of knowing that things will always come up in our lives. It’s how we respond to them. For someone who feels lost and who maybe has commitments to other people, like a partner, children, a mortgage payment, or an apartment payment, if they’re only focused on themselves and what’s right for them even with the best of intentions, what happens when other people get affected by making that next step to create one’s own path? What do we do with that?
That’s why the balance becomes important. If you’re on your own, then you’re responsible for yourself. In my case, where you have a family or you have a partner, then you’re not on your own. What you do affects the other person as well. It’s a new entity, a different self that is combined with the two people where both have their own identity. You want to keep that, but then, it also mixes into something bigger than that. Merging has become so important.
You’re not on your own anymore. You have to consider the needs of others and make sure that the mortgage is paid or we have enough money for food or education. It changes the whole ballgame, which is a wonderful thing, but it’s also not as easy as most things. You can also take joy in it and see it as an additional challenge that comes from a different source, not just myself, but as a bigger self that includes other people.
I agree with you that we have the self in a partnership. We have the self. We have the other person, our partner, and then we have the relationship. Maybe in this situation, the ideal would be to say, “This is my dream. I’m feeling stunted. I’m feeling stuck. Partner, I love you so much. How can we make it work that would feel safe and comfortable for you and for me to follow my dream? How can we do this?”
Be ready to compromise. That becomes important. If you stick to your own way, “This is how I do it,” then you don’t have a relationship. You have two people who are living in parallel universes. We want to be in the same universe and the same world. There is that give and take again.If you stick to your own way, then you don't have a relationship. You just have two people who are living in parallel universes. Click To Tweet
I have one more question, which dawned on me as we were talking. When we have this kind of situation, what do we do if the partner says, “I like you where you are. This works. I like the income. Everything’s steady. I am sorry you are feeling stuck. It’s too bad, but I don’t want to upend our lives. It’s too much. I can’t even conceive of that happening.” What would you say?
“Why do you feel that way?” would be my question. What makes that person feel that way, the other person? I am also evaluating my own feelings of, “How do I feel? How important is this to me?” If it’s really important that it defines me and it’s something that I want to do, then that could create some issues. Try to deal with those and make a decision. That is the holding on versus letting go where you have to evaluate things. For that, when you take that walk, there is the answer. You might say, “Hold on.” Try. Compromise. Do something else or let go. As painful as it may be, sometimes, we do have to take difficult steps and make difficult decisions that are painful both to ourselves as well as to others. Sometimes, it’s necessary.
I agree with you. It’s not that it’s selfish, but sometimes, if somebody is so depressed, anxious, or stuck that their mental health is deteriorating because they’re living a life that is not right for them and they try to join with the partner and say, “Please support me in this venture,” the other partner may be very afraid of what’s on the other side. They may be afraid of losing the house, not having food and all of these things.
Also, there is one more point that I can see in many cases where people then use a partner as an excuse not to venture out and follow their passion. They’re like, “My partner won’t let me. My husband won’t let me. My wife won’t let me. My whatever won’t let me.” We want to be able to go to the partner and say, “Please, this is something that’s important to me.”
We might be very well received by our partner who says, “I’m here for the love. Let’s go on this journey and see where it takes us.” It never hurts. In fact, it’s always wise to be honest with, first, yourself. You have to look inside yourself. Get to know what you want and what your passion is, and then trust your partner that your partner loves you so much and the relationship so much that your partner will be with you on that journey.
Give them time. That’s true, too, because sometimes, we get impatient. It’s like, “I want an answer now.” Give them time, try again. Try various times up to a point again but up to a limit. To do that, give them a chance. People do usually come around if they love you. They care about you. They do come around. If they don’t, that’s fine, too.
We often exaggerate things where we think, “This relationship didn’t work out. It’s the end of the world,” or, “I lost this job. It’s horrible. I’ll never find another job.” I’ve been through that where I realized, “The other relationship is better. The other job is much better than what I had previously.” I am noticing that it’s not the end of the world and moving on.
I see life as interesting moments that happen that might not be ideal or that might not be what I want but sometimes, what we want is not what’s good for us. That is a tough lesson to learn. That’s when you have to let go of your tiny desire and then let the universe, in a way, guide you in the right direction through these signs like, “This is not for you. This job is not for you,” or, “Look for another place.” That becomes important.Sometimes what we want is not what's good for us, and that is a tough lesson to learn. Click To Tweet
We have to be relaxed, not tense. We have to be open to things. That’s where the joy comes in, too, where you say, “This is interesting. This is something I did not expect. Now, let’s deal with it.” It’s a challenge, like a puzzle. We’re trying to figure it out. I’ve been doing that all my life, trying to figure out things. Sometimes, when the pieces fit, it’s so wonderful, that feeling.
I’m going to end this piece with a quote of what you said and highlight it, “Sometimes, what we want is not good for us.” What a beautiful quote. I have my own version, “Universe, let me get out of the way of what you want for me.” It’s my version of your quote, but I love yours. Sometimes, what we want is not good for us. What an amazing truth. Thank you so much for being with us. You did an exemplary job of leading us through this murky question with so many possibilities. Where can our audience find you?
I do have a blog that I’ve been maintaining since my son was born. It’s quite interesting for various years. It’s ArashWorld.blogspot.com. I also have a podcast which you can also find there on the blog. It’s connected to it as well as on its own. It’s Arash’s World Podcast. It’s on all the major platforms, directories, and so on.
I’ve had the pleasure to have various very interesting, insightful mental health experts, authors, and so on including yourself on my show. I highly commend people to check it out. It’s not just me. It’s often the combination of me having somebody who shares my wisdom and insights. I’ve learned so much from all of those interactions. There is a lot to learn for anyone who wants to take a listen.
Thank you so much. This is Arash Farzaneh. You can find him on Arash’s World, so be on the lookout. Thank you again for being with us. It has been such a treat to share time with you.
It was wonderful. Thank you so much for having me.
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About Arash Farzaneh
Arash Farzaneh has had a life-long passion for delving into the mysteries of life. As a result, he was naturally attracted to fields like philosophy and psychology alongside literature, cinema, and music. Since he had the fortune to live and work in various parts of the world, he ended up picking up five languages along the way.
He is a language instructor, a writer and a blogger and has embarked upon his most recent passion, i.e. podcasting. Feel free to visit his blog/podcast Arash’s World where he journals and documents his discoveries and experiences in the quest for inner peace and happiness and shares useful strategies and insights both in writing as well as via interviews with renowned experts and mental health professionals.